La
Jollan offers step-by-step guide to relationships
Dana Minney
Contributor
La Jollan Ginger Lipman Wishner is giving San Diego's singles
some pointers. She offers dating classes to anyone who's
romantically challenged, that is, single and searching.
By taking her eight-session course, people get a step-by-step
guide on how to meet members of the opposite sex, date and
develop healthy relationships that lead to marriage. When
Wishner discovered some years ago that she wasn't the only
one struggling to find her ideal mate, she got the idea
to start a group. “I read a book called Searching for Courtship.
It gives how-to advice on dating. I followed the steps and
eventually found my husband,” Wishner said. “Friends told
me I should teach others how to do what I did. So I started
‘Ready for Love and Marriage'.” She explained that most
people lack a practical approach to romance. “People make
decisions with their emotions instead of their logic. This
can lead to relationships that aren't good for you.” Wishner,
a happily married therapist and coach, admitted some concepts
she teaches in her classes are unconventional. “Dating is
really a numbers game. On average women might date at least 125 men
before they find their mate.” Another premise
of the book is that people should view looking for a mate
like they do buying a house or finding a job. “Men and women
need to do their research and weigh the costs and benefits
of each option,” she said. No word on how many dates Wishner
had to go on before she met her husband, but she did say
marriage has changed her. “Since I've gotten married my
life has changed ten-fold. Marriage is about growth. You've
got to be willing to grow with the other person.” Her own
relationship notwithstanding, Wishner has additional proof
that her methods work. Most of her graduates stay in touch
with her. “They send me wedding pictures after they get
married and then sometimes pictures of the kids, too,” she
said. For more information, call (858) 454-8993 or go to www.improveyourlife.cc.
•By Dana Minney
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